How to Boost The Self-Esteem of The People You Love

DIY - Do It Yourself

         Well, raising one's self-esteem is mostly an inside job. It is about seeing and valuing yourself in a new and more positive and helpful way. So it is not something someone else can do for you (or you can do for someone else).

         But you do have a couple of suggestions for how you can start encouraging such a change in someone you care about.


1. Appreciate all kinds of things.

         Think about what you can appreciate about your friend for example. And be sure to express it to this person.

         But don't just focus on achievements in school or at work. That can easily lead to her not feeling so good about herself if she is not getting things done and working hard all the time.

         No, also appreciate her other fine qualities too. That she is kind. That she is a good listener. That she is funny, enthusiastic about odd but wonderful things or has a great taste in music or books.

And appreciate the things about her that you and others may sometimes take for granted.

         Help her see how wonderful she is overall as a person.

2. Be constructive and supportive when they stumble.

         If your friend or partner stumbles then stay away from criticism and being judgmental.

         Instead, be constructive and supportive to him. Listen and let him vent about his failure. But also ground him and help him see that it is not the end of the world and that there are things he can do to improve the situation.

         This will help him to open himself up to taking more chances and going for what he deep down dreams about.

3. Know how your own self-esteem works.

         You may find that if you know how your own self-esteem works and how to practically improve it, then it becomes a lot easier to help someone else with it too.
         Now, this doesn't mean that you have to push the advice onto someone else.

         But you can share if they ask for a tip or two.

         Or you can simply share what you did in a similar situation that he or she is now in and maybe that can start some positive, self-kind and constructive thoughts in his or her mind.

         Have a kindful days ahead!