3 Tips for a Happy Life

1. Your outside is a reflection of the inner you.

"For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone."

This is a wonderful quote and a very true one.

How other people see you aren't just about cheekbones and a good sense of style. People view people through filters in their minds.

A kind person may seem more handsome when you get to know him.

A handsome person may suddenly not seem that attractive as you are confronted with her negative attitude.

And this goes for pretty much any meeting or relationship you have with someone.

What you feel and think has a big impact not only on you. It's also spread to the people around you.

Emotions are contagious. And people form opinions about others oftentimes in subtle and almost unconscious ways. Now, this may sound a bit silly or like it's not of that great importance (You may think that way at least).

Whatever that is inside of you is always shining out and through in one way or another.

2. Don't worry about what others may think of you.

"Never think of yourself as an icon. What is in other people's minds is no matter. You just do your thing."

One of the biggest parts of doing what you really want is to stop caring so much about what other people think of you.

A lot of the actions you take - or do not take - may be because you need approval from other people. When we are young we get grades in school that tells us that we are "good". This makes it very easy to create a life where you always go looking for the world to give you the next hit of approval. It may be from your family, boss, friends, co-workers and so on.

But this need creates neediness. And the stronger the need the stronger the neediness. And so other people will sense this. And approval may be withheld or used to manipulate you. Or they may just not like your neediness.

The people on the other hand that does not care that much about getting approval often do more of what they want deep inside. They may be considered courageous for instance. So the way they live their lives will gain appreciation and approval from the people around them.

Action-tip: But how do you stop caring so much about what people may think?

The best thing found for that is simply to realize that they honestly don't care that much about what you do or say. They are focused on their own challenges, their partners, kids and jobs and what you and others may think of them.

3. Finally getting something may not be all it's cracked up to be.

"Success is like reaching an important birthday and finding you're exactly the same."

Often we wish for something. A new job or promotion, a new relationship or perhaps a new pair of shoes. And you think: "if I only get this thing, then I'm home, then I'll feel happy and good all around".

And then you get it. And it's awesome. But often for just a while. And then you may feel like maybe something went a bit wrong. Like it didn't fulfill you or complete you like you thought it would.

Why?

You get used to it. After while when you get used to something, when it becomes normal, then the ego tends to want more once again.

You are still the same. You can't enjoy something for what it is because even though your environment changes, you are still the same. With the same self-imposed barriers for your own success and happiness and maybe self-sabotaging behavior. And until you take a look at those things you may find yourself repeating the same patterns over and over.

Any success is often accompanied by unexpected and not always so pleasant side effects. Things may seem just perfect when you dream about them. In reality, it can become a little more complicated and messy.

Now, new things or people can be great.

But if you think this one success or event you are looking forward to in life will fix all your problems or if you focus on the wrong aspects - what is not perfect, how can I get more etc. - instead of the positives and gratitude then you may find yourself always looking for the next thing and create quite a bit of stress and unhappiness within.