Golden Rules on Living the Good Life

Life comes from physical survival; but the good life comes from what we care about.

         What is good life? What is happiness? What is success? What is pleasure? How should I treat other people? How should I cope with unfortunate events? How can I get rid off unnecessary worry? How should I handle liberty?

The answers to all these questions are condensed in below:

1. Examine life, engage life with vengeance; always search for new pleasures and new destines to reach with your mind. This rule isn't new. Living life is about examining life through reason, nature's greatest gift to humanity. The importance of reason in sensing and examining life is evident in all phases of life - from the infant who strains to explore its new surroundings to the grandparent who actively reads and assesses the headlines of the daily paper. Reason lets human beings participate in life, to be human is to think, appraise, and explore the world, discovering new sources of material and spiritual pleasure.

Live a Responsible Life

Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else.

         Each of us has a value set upon which we model our lives. I refer to these as "responsibilities" as I feel it to be the most appropriate description. I have a three layered approach which I term circles of responsibility. Picture them as overlapping with the central portion as your core of being. The three are responsibility to self, others and nature. As they are overlapping, each affects the other and they all affect who you are.

Promises You Should Make to Yourself and Keep Forever

When you become your own best friend, life is easier.

         Life is not all rainbows and butterflies. It can be tough sometimes. And you've paid a heavy price to get this far, so the best option is to really make it count by moving forward from where you are. Free yourself from the world's negativity - from the sources of ignorance telling you what you can and cannot do - by promising to look ahead, to live ahead, and to get ahead. In other words, start making positive promises to yourself!

Negative Thoughts that Push People Away from You

If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think another negative thought.

         We all get our minds stuck in the gutter sometimes. None of us are immune to the negative thoughts that creep up in the backs of our minds. However, that doesn't mean we have to succumb to them. Whether your negative thinking is a common occurrence, or just a once in a while phenomena, it's critical for your long-term-happiness and success that you are able to recognize when you're thinking negatively, and consciously shift your mindset from negative to positive.

         Here are the most common negative thoughts we see people struggle with, and some tips to get back on track:

Question that Will Free You from Judgments and Drama

If you listen closely to your intuition you will always know what is "best" for you, because what is best for you is what is true for you.

         Your body has five senses: sight, hearing, smell, taste, and touch. But not to be ignored are the inner senses of your soul: intuition, foresight, and self-trust. The most common differences between happy and unhappy people lie in their use of these inner senses. So many people don't know anything about them though, while others rely on their inner senses just as they rely on their physical senses, and in fact probably even more. And this makes all the difference in the world.

Little Habits that Steal Your Happiness

You ultimately become what you repeatedly do. If your habits aren't helping you, they're hurting you.

         Here are a few examples of the latter that will steal your happiness if you let them:

Focusing on everyone's story except your own.
         Don't be so satisfied with the success stories of others and how things have gone for them that you forget to write your own. Unfold your own tale and bring it to life. You have everything you need to become what you are capable of becoming. Incredible change happens when you decide to take control. This means consuming less and creating more. It means refusing to let others do your thinking, talking, and deciding for you. It means learning to respect and use your own ideas and instincts to write your passage.
         If you want your life story to soar to new heights, you've got to clear a path, reduce the time-sinks and burdens weighing you down, and pick up the things that give you wings. Keep your best wishes and your biggest goals close to your heart and dedicate time to them every day. If you truly care about what you do and you work diligently at it, there's almost nothing you can't accomplish.

Things to Let Go of Before the New Year

You will find that it is necessary to let some things go, simply for the reason that they are heavy.  So let them go… LET GO of them.  Tie no weights to your ankles.

Let go of your temper. - Never do something permanently foolish just because you are temporarily upset.

Let go of petty grudges. - Life is far too short to be spent nursing bitterness and registering wrongs. If there's someone in your life who deserves another chance, give it to them. If you need to apologize, do it. Give your story together a happy, new beginning.

Let go of the idea that everyone has it better than you. - If the grass looks greener on the other side… Stop staring. Stop comparing. Stop complaining and START watering the grass you're standing on.

Good Reminders that Will Change the Way You Think

The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking.  It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.

Everything that happens helps you grow, even if it's hard to see right now. - Circumstances will direct you, correct you, and perfect you over time. Sometimes these circumstances knock you down, hard. There will be times when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong. And you might feel like you will be stuck in this rut forever, but you won't. When you feel like quitting, remember that sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right. Sometimes you have to go through the worst, to arrive at your best. Because our most significant opportunities are often found in times of great difficulty. Thus, you will face your greatest opposition when you are closest to your biggest miracle.

The way you feel about people and situations will shift, and that's OK. - Things will seem totally different to you at some point in the future, just as you feel different now than you did in the past. So remember, just because you liked something at one point in time doesn't mean you'll always like it, or that you have to go on liking it at all points in the future as an act of loyalty to who you are as a person, based solely on who you once were as a person. To be loyal to yourself is to allow yourself to grow and change, and challenge who you once were and what you once thought. The only thing you ever have to be for sure is unsure, and this means you're growing, and not stagnant or shrinking.

Hard Things You Need to Do to Be Happy

There are no shortcuts to any place worth going.

         You have to do hard things to be happy in life.  The things no one else is doing.  The things that frighten you.  The things others can’t do for you.  The things that make you question how much longer you can hold on and push forward.

Why?

         Because those are the things that define you.  Those are the things that make the difference between existing and living – between knowing the path and walking the path – between a life of mediocrity and a life filled with happiness and success.

         Of course, the hard things are often the easiest things to avoid.  To procrastinate.  To make excuses.  To pretend like they somehow don’t apply to you and your life situation.

         But reality always rears its head in the end.  And the truth about how ordinary people achieve immense happiness and incredible feats of success is that they step out of their comfort zones and do the hard things that their more educated, affluent and qualified counterparts don’t have the courage, drive or determination to do.

         So for your own sake, start doing the hard things TODAY.  I guarantee, you will be blown away at just how remarkable you really are and just how amazing life can be.  Here are some ideas to get you started:

Become A Mature Man

1- Accept responsibility

         Responsibility is the foundation of character and integrity. Learn to accept responsibility for your actions, without any excuses. Accept blame as readily as you do credit. Be prepared for the consequences of your decisions and make the right ones so as to minimize those occasions where you must shoulder responsibility. For instance, cut out potentially dangerous behavior such as speeding, or driving after a few drinks.

2- Control your emotions

         An inability to rein your emotions can produce problems in both your personal and professional life. Rather than suppressing your feelings, work on venting them while controlling your words and actions. For example, if someone lashes out at you in anger, don't respond in kind. Instead, remain calm and cool — you'll be the better man for it.

3- Give back

         Your successes have a lot to do with help you received along the way. So return the favor and help out others. If you can afford to, donate money to a charity, church or any other worthwhile organization. If money is short, donate your time by volunteering for a charity or mentoring a child.

4- Spend time with family & friends

         Be sure to visit your relatives often. If you can't, then keep in touch with them. Call them and catch up. The same applies to your buddies. Even if you're all hitched, try to get together every week. Go for a few beers or play a round of golf. Remember that you probably knew your friends before your girl came into the picture.

know thyself

5- Overcome character flaws

         Each one of us has character flaws. Make a sincere effort to become aware of your habits, traits and overall personality. Listen to what your friends and family say about your behavior. Work on eliminating character weaknesses and enhancing your strong traits; for example, if your work ethic is lacking, resolve to put in a greater effort at work every day.

6- Mind your manners

         The way you treat others through your words or actions reflects directly on you. You're a walking, talking billboard for yourself. So advertise your good manners. If you don't, people won't like you, won't want to hire you and won't want to date you. Practice the good manners that your parents (hopefully) instilled in you.

7- Do your own thing

         Do what you think is right for yourself, not what others think is right for you. In other words, follow your bliss. And don't compare yourself with others, especially in regards to material gain, or you'll likely feel inadequate. Take a chance on a career path you've always dreamed of, but never followed.

8- Operate with integrity

         A man of integrity puts his principles and moral ethics in front of pleasure and personal gain. Employers, colleagues and women all respect people of integrity. Practice keeping your word and doing what's right, instead of just what you want.

Ways To Be A Better Man Even If You Can’t Be A Perfect One

         As always, there are improvements to be made. The truth is that no matter how many things we alter in our lives, we will never be perfect men.

         We will make mistakes, give in to our weaknesses and stumble backwards from time to time – we’re only human. But, with enough focus, we can make a steady improvement over time.

         The key is to remind yourself what’s most important in your life and what you feel needs changing.

Here are some things you may want to consider if you want to up your game as a man:

1. Work out right after you wake up, every morning.
2. Dress to impress.
3. Keep yourself well groomed.
4. Stay up-to-date with world affairs.
5. Read.
6. Watch less porn.
7. Take time off to let your mind rest.
8. Stop treating women like objects.
9. Plan for the future.
10. Don’t skimp on the foreplay.
11. Give more.
12. Don’t spend money you don’t have.
13. Stop filling your head with information you don’t need to know.
14. Keep your environment clean and neat.
15. Quit the job you hate.
16. If it’s time, put a ring on it.
17. Don’t be afraid to learn something new.
18. Start a business.
19. Save some money.
20. Travel more.
21. Be thankful.

Aquire the Habits & Future will Thank You

The actions we take today cultivate the realities we experience tomorrow.

         As a society largely encouraged to "live in the moment", it is important for us to evaluate what day-to-day habits we've acquired that will affect our futures.

         Sure, we know we need to floss each day, wear SPF and never smoke. However, there are a number of other habits we should start adopting that will benefit us not only today, but also for years to come.

         You know how older people are often described as stubborn and "stuck in their ways"? Make sure that when you get to an age when your habits and beliefs are set in stone, they're ones you’re happy to have; ones that exercise your best interests and work in your favor.

         This is a decade of adjustment and growth. While we're still young enough to frequently change our minds and behaviors, we're old enough that we should make these changes count.

         The decisions we make now will slowly start to habituate and root themselves in the foundation of our character. Here are some of the habits your future self will thank you for having :

Unsuccessful People Always Use these 10 Phrases

Look for these key phrases--they are a sign of unsuccessful people

         We've spent some time around unsuccessful people.

         Most of them live in a bubble of hopelessness trying to figure out how to break out of their cell (or cubicle). It's sad. One person I know is so unhappy and stuck that he seems to always be moving backward, not forward--faltering so much in his lack of productivity that it's almost comical. Being around unsuccessful people is never fun.

         If you listen to folks who can't seem to push ahead in their career or who have never started a company or led large groups of people, they all seem to mimic the same speech patterns. They talk the same language. Here are the 10 phrases they always use. Spot this negative talk in others (or in yourself), and you'll find the wrench in your business's growth.

You Should Stop Doing 8 things - Right Now

Even better than a "to-do" list is a "not to do" list.

         The good thing about to-do lists is that they help keep you focused.

         But having a "not to do list" can actually be more effective, since if you follow it, you will free up a lot more time and energy--and be more productive.

         Who doesn't want that?

         Here are eight things you want to stop doing today.

Ethics - Your Efforts Make A Difference

Ethics - Your Efforts Make A Difference

         Ethics is another element of human nature. Much has been written about this subject to it is difficult to either add anything or to be original about it. Yet I believe it to be important so I will try.

What is this all about?

This is related to

• our beliefs
• our conduct
• our values
• our standards
• our principles
• our morals
• our ideals
• our integrity

         A heavy list indeed. For any thinking person interested in life and how to get the most out of life and how to contribute, then it seems ethics has much to offer.

What do One have to do to be ethical?

         We talk about being ethical but what does it mean? The following give a good introduction to the meaning of being ethical:

• to be just in our affairs
• to be above board, honest and open
• to be conscientious - not just act but put one's heart into it
• to be equitable and fair in our affairs
• to adopt a moral stance, but to live this out, too
• to be virtuous - elsewhere we discuss virtues, here we want to put them into practice
• to be honorable, loyal and supporting
• to live a life of sharing and contribution

Universal Responsibility

Universal Responsibility

         The sense of universal or global responsibility functions on a human level. We’re concerned about other humans because: “I am one of them; my welfare depends on them no matter what the differences are.” Differences are always there; but this can be helpful.

         For several centuries, the population was only one billion people on this planet; now there are over six billion. Already, because of overpopulation, one country can’t provide all the food and resources for its own population. So we have global economy. Therefore, according to today’s reality, the world is much smaller and is heavily interdependent. This is reality. On top of that, there is the ecological issue: global warming. This is a concern for all six billion inhabitants of this planet, not just for one or two nations. The new reality needs a sense of global responsibility.

         For example, in older times, the British here thought only of themselves and sometimes exploited other areas of the globe. They didn’t care about the concerns or feelings of these other people. OK, that’s past. But now things are different; things have changed. Now we must take care of other countries.

Take control of your life

Work tasks. Make a list of all the things you want or need to accomplish in your work life. This could be big things like the Weekly Review, or little things like paperwork or reports, or clearing your physical inbox each day, setting your schedule at the beginning of each day, reviewing your goals, communicating your progress with your boss, processing your email inbox to empty, phone calls, writing, designing, etc.

Personal tasks. Do the same thing with your personal life. This could include things like exercise, yoga, meditation, writing in a journal, reading, reading your RSS feeds, as well as chores and errands such as paying bills, balancing your checkbook, laundry, cleaning routines, grocery shopping, pet chores, stuff in your kids’ lives, going to the bank, going to the post office, fixing your kids’ lunch, etc.

Batch process. Take a look at your lists and find ways to put smaller tasks together. This saves time and cuts down on interruption. For example, if you have grocery shopping, going to the bank, going to the post office and going to the pet store on your list, put them together and do them on one day. You can do a “desk day” each week for personal stuff and take care of processing your mail, paying bills, balancing your checkbook, filing personal papers, getting stuff ready for the post office, setting your weekly dinner menu and creating a grocery list. For work, you could batch process all phone calls into one hour, batch process email into one one-hour period, batch process paperwork, etc.

Sharpen Your Leadership Skills

         Leadership is a skill; one that can be learned and developed. Strong leadership skills will help you score more responsibility at work, which means higher chances of a promotion, increased salary, and growth opportunity overall.
         So, if you want to give your boss more reasons to promote you, consider doing at least one of the following each work day:

1. Foster a reputation for being helpful and resourceful. You don't have to know how to do everything to be seen as a leader, but you do need to be a problem solver. Keep your eyes and ears perked to be aware of what's going on, even in other departments—who's the best person for graphics? Or who's the most accessible person in the IT department? When a newbie co-worker or manager asks for help, you'll know exactly who to direct them to, which will solidify your status as someone who knows the ropes.

         "Top performers are widely known and respected by others not because of their frequent contact, charm or likability, but because they help others solve their problems". By doing so, they become invaluable resources. Aim to be helpful; knowing about your surrounding resources is a great start.

2. Be a self-starter. At the very least, you should become the go-to, indispensable person in your little corner of the company. Do whatever it takes - whether it's classes at night, attending conferences, or starting a blog about your field - to become a super authority on your job.

         The key here is to kick into self-starter mode - a major prerequisite to gaining leader status. It's not just about doing the job you're assigned, it's about starting your own side projects to keep practicing and mastering your skill.

3. Mentor someone newer. If you see a co-worker who is clearly struggling, point them in the right direction if you can. After all, what better way to practice leadership than to let someone follow your lead? The trick here is to be an effective communicator. Their success is a testament to yours, and at least one person will now see you as a leader. You have to start somewhere.

Be Open-Minded

Be Open-Minded

         Being open-minded can be really tough sometimes. Most of us are brought up with a set of beliefs and values and, throughout our lives, tend to surround ourselves with people who share the same values and beliefs. Therefore, it can be difficult when we're faced with ideas that challenge our own and, though we may wish to be open-minded, we may struggle with the act of it from time to time. 

        I'd like to say I'm a fairly open-minded person, but, like most people, I do have some pretty strong views about specific topics and find it hard to sway from those opinions -- no matter how others might try to persuade me. Of course, I fully believe that having strong beliefs can be a wonderful thing and I believe we should all stay true to what we believe in, but having strong beliefs doesn't have to mean having a closed mind.

         Though it can be tough to do sometimes, I've always found that when I open my mind, I've reaped a lot of rewarding benefits. There is much to be gained from opening the door to your mind and letting new ideas and beliefs come in. Here are just a few of the benefits I've uncovered when I've taken the time to view the world around me with an open mind... 

7 Benefits of Being Open-Minded

Change Your Life & Live Your Life On Purpose

Stuck in a rut and don’t know how to move forward? Know you need a change but don’t know what or how to go about it? Know what you want but have cold feet? Read on for some tips on how to become the person you were supposed to be and live the life you were born to live.

Be true to yourself

         Before you start changing your life around the first thing you need to do is be honest with yourself.  You may already think you are, but this may not necessarily be the case.  We humans are masters of self-deception. Many people have changed their life, jobs, partners, location etc., only to find it wasn’t really what they wanted after all.  Sometimes it is a good thing to know what you don’t want, and the only way you will ever really know, is by doing it.

         However, you can cut out some of the needless heartache by being honest with yourself in the first place.  It is all too easy to follow somebody else’s dream and not your own.  This may be through obligation, perhaps to ones parents who want to see you follow family tradition, or through love; you love someone and so you follow their dream, or maybe just because you don’t really know who you are or what you want, so you emulate somebody else’s idea of success or happiness.

         This is the tricky bit and that’s why it has to be the number one priority at the top of your list.

         Only you know who you truly are and what you will be happy with.

Identify what is holding you back

         The most common excuse we use for not following our dreams is lack of money.  We can’t do this or we can’t do that because haven’t had the opportunity, or haven’t got the money.  You were born in a barn and had to walk barefoot to school, whatever the excuse is, drop it right there.

         People in much worse situations than you manage to live happy and ’on purpose’ lives.

         If you really want something, there are ways of making it happen.  And if it isn’t happening, then you need to really have a good talk with yourself; be honest, see why it isn’t. It might not be your destiny.  The universe has a strange way of providing you with all the resources you need and it is up to you to take the opportunity when it arises.

         Another block could be family or peer pressure. If people love and respect you, and what you are doing is with good intention and from the heart, they should give their blessing to almost anything you do.

Some people blame things on events in their past and maybe you have to go back and identify what it is about a situation in the past that is holding you back, but don’t dwell there, or you will miss your future.

Make a decision and take action

         Once you have made a decision, you need to act on it.  Otherwise you have changed your thoughts and mindset, and not moved forward.  This is a torturous place to be.  I decided I didn’t like my job and it was an unsuitable career choice a good few years before I had the guts to hand in my notice. I also did the same with a relationship that wasn’t working out. Had I just acted on my decision when I had made it, I would have saved myself and others a lot of unnecessary angst.  Not to mention the time I wasted; both my own and other people’s.  So remember, once you have made an informed decision, which you know you need to take; then take action.

         It’s easy to look to others for a solution for the situations we find ourselves in.  Sure, take on board other people’s opinions and guidance, but remember, at the end of the day your decisions and actions are your own.  By entrusting yourself with the decision, and being responsible for the outcome, makes you stronger and more empowered.

Boost Your Self-Confidence

Try it

Groom yourself:

   This seems like such an obvious one, but it’s amazing how much of a difference a shower and a shave can make in your feelings of self-confidence and for your self-image. There have been days when I turned my mood around completely with this one little thing.

Dress nicely:

   A corollary of the first item above … if you dress nicely, you’ll feel good about yourself. You’ll feel successful and presentable and ready to tackle the world. Now, dressing nicely means something different for everyone … it doesn’t necessarily mean wearing a $500 outfit, but could mean casual clothes that are nice looking and presentable.

Think positive:

   One of the things I learned when I started running, about two years ago, what how to replace negative thoughts (see next item) with positive ones. How I can actually change my thoughts, and by doing so make great things happened. With this tiny little skill, I was able to train for and run a marathon within a year. It sounds so trite, so Norman Vincent Peale, but my goodness this works. Seriously. Try it if you haven’t.

Kill negative thoughts:

   Goes hand-in-hand with the above item, but it’s so important that I made it a separate item. You have to learn to be aware of your self-talk, the thoughts you have about yourself and what you’re doing. When I was running, sometimes my mind would start to say, “This is too hard. I want to stop and go watch TV.” Well, I soon learned to recognize this negative self-talk, and soon I learned a trick that changed everything in my life: I would imagine that a negative thought was a bug, and I would vigilantly be on the lookout for these bugs. When I caught one, I would stomp on it (mentally of course) and squash it. Kill it dead. Then replace it with a positive one. ("C'mon, I can do this! Only one mile left!")

Get to know yourself:

   When going into battle, the wisest general learns to know his enemy very, very well. You can’t defeat the enemy without knowing him. And when you’re trying to overcome a negative self-image and replace it with self-confidence, your enemy is yourself. Get to know yourself well. Start listening to your thoughts. Start writing a journal about yourself, and about the thoughts you have about yourself, and analyzing why you have such negative thoughts. And then think about the good things about yourself, the things you can do well, the things you like. Start thinking about your limitations, and whether they’re real limitations or just ones you’ve allowed to be placed there, artificially. Dig deep within yourself, and you’ll come out (eventually) with even greater self-confidence.

How to Influence People

         The ability to influence people is a vital skill in the real world. It allows you to help people to do better or encourages them to see things from your point of view. This article will help you to hone the fine art of influencing people.

Building relationships

         Be outgoing. Having a friendly, outgoing personality goes a long way when it comes to having an influence on the people around you. People respond to people who are comfortable in their own skin, and are more inclined to follow their lead.

• Smile. People are drawn to a friendly smile. It makes you seem approachable and trustworthy.
• Ask questions. Engage other people in conversations. Show an interest in them and they will become more open and responsive.
• Plan activities. Take the initiative and organize a group trip, for example, hiking or to a concert. This will earn you major cool points.

         Demonstrate interest in others. In order to make a good impression, you need to show an active interest in the person you're talking to. Being self-obsessed isn't an attractive feature.

• Ask stimulating questions about the other person's interests and opinions.
• Listen to their answers and respond in an appropriate and thoughtful manner.
• This will generate a sense of trust and create a rapport between you.

         Address people by name. People are more likely to respond when they hear their name, as the use of their name makes your message more personal to them.

• By remembering to use someone's name, you will seem like an interesting person who pays close attention to details.
• Using someone's name is also a sign of respect and is another way of demonstrating an interest in the other person, as discussed above.

You Are My Life

There was a boy in India who was sent by his parents to a boarding school. Before being sent away this boy was the brightest student in his class. He was at the top in every competition. He was a champion.

But the boy changed after leaving home and attending the boarding school. His grades started dropping. He hated being in a group. He was lonely all the time. And there were especially dark times when he felt like committing suicide. All of this because he felt worthless and that no one loved him.

His parents started worrying about the boy. But even they did not know what was wrong with him. So his dad decided to travel to the boarding school and talk with him.

They sat on the bank of the lake near the school. The father started asking him casual questions about his classes, teachers and sports. After some time his dad said, 'Do you know son, why I am here today?" 

The boy answered back, "to check my grades?" 

"No, no" his dad replied, "I am here to tell you that you are the most important person for me. I want to see you happy. I don't care about grades. I care about you. I care about your happiness. YOU ARE MY LIFE." 

These words caused the boy's eyes to fill with tears. He hugged his dad. They didn't say anything to each other for a long time.

Now the boy had everything he wanted. He knew there was someone on this earth who cared for him deeply. He meant the world to someone. And today this young man is in college at the top of his class and no one has ever seen him sad! 

Thanks a lot dad. YOU ARE MY LIFE.

"Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around."

How to Win Friends and Influence People

Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness.

'To know all is to forgive all.'

Remember that the people you are talking to are a hundred times more interested in themselves and their wants and problems than they are in you and your problems. A person’s toothache means more to that

person than a famine in China which kills a million people. A boil on one’s neck interests one more than forty earthquakes in Africa.

'Think of that the next time you start a conversation.'

Allow yourself to be bored

Don’t be afraid of the vacant moment. You are a human being, not a “human doing” so just be and consider your boredness. You may be surprised at how it clears the mind (after getting over the initial discomfort) and provides new thoughts.

Two Days We Should Not Worry

There are two days in every week about which we should not worry, two days which should be kept free from fear and apprehension. 

One of these days is Yesterday with all its mistakes and cares,

its faults and blunders, its aches and pains. 

Yesterday has passed forever beyond our control.

All the money in the world cannot bring back Yesterday. 

We cannot undo a single act we performed;

we cannot erase a single word we said.

Yesterday is gone forever. 

The other day we should not worry about is Tomorrow

with all its possible adversities, its burdens,

its large promise and its poor performance;

Tomorrow is also beyond our immediate control. 

Tomorrow's sun will rise, 

either in splendor or behind a mask of clouds, but it will rise.

Until it does, we have no stake in Tomorrow,

for it is yet to be born. 

This leaves only one day, Today.

Any person can fight the battle of just one day.

It is when you and I add the burdens of those two awful eternities Yesterday and Tomorrow that we break down. 

It is not the experience of Today that drives a person mad,

it is the remorse or bitterness of something which happened Yesterday and the dread of what Tomorrow may bring. 

"Let us, therefore, Live but one day at a time."

Live the Life 'Fuller & Richer'

Do you have any idea how full your life can be? Do you have any idea how rich your life can be?

   If you're willing to stop, to reach inside, and to feel for a moment, you are likely to become aware that there is a significant, untapped potential inside of you.

   Though the principles are simple, putting them into practice in your daily life may not be easy at first. Yet if you choose to set clear intentions and follow through, the doors of transformation could very well open. You may be surprised at the positive changes that begin to unfold in your life.

What's Best : Serving the Greater Good

The Power of Choice:

   Every one of us makes countless choices every day. Every choice we make has an impact on our lives. Even insignificant choices can affect what we experience and how we feel. When hunger strikes, we can reach for a healthy, nutritious snack, or we can choose the sugar high of junk food. The more important the decision, the more profound its effect. For instance, how do I act towards that person who treated me badly? Do I generally choose to be passive, or do I actively set clear intentions and create what I want in my life? Every choice we make, however big or small, affects us in some way.

How Do You Make Choices?

What do you use to guide you in making choices and decisions throughout your day?

   If you're interested in living a richer, fuller life, there is a foundation upon which you can base all of your decisions which can make life better not only for you, but also for those around you. This foundation is to choose based on what's best – what's best for you and for all of us.

I will do my best to choose what's best for me and for all of us.

   Imagine a world where everyone made choices based on what's best. Imagine if every parent, spouse, friend, teacher, businessperson, and politician truly did their best to choose what's best for all involved in every decision they made. We would certainly live in a more caring, supportive world.

It's the Intention:

   "But how do I know what is really best?" you might ask. The answer is simple. It doesn't matter. What matters is not the choice you make, but rather the intention behind your choice. What matters is that whatever decision you make, you are clear in your intention of choosing based on what's best.

   If it later turns out that you made what appears to have been a bad choice, there's no need for guilt. Knowing that you did your best to choose with a sincere desire for what's best for all involved, your conscience stays clear and open. This then allows you to more easily learn from your mistakes, and to live with a clear heart and mind. 

What's Best for Me, Too!

   Choosing what's best does not mean you have to always sacrifice yourself for others. An overly exhausted mother can lose her temper easily. Some time off for this mother might seem selfish, yet in the long run, it can help her to be a better mother to her children. At times, giving to yourself is what's best for all involved.

Big Choices Make a Big Difference

   So as we move through each day of our lives, let us remember to include ourselves as we do our best to choose what's best for all of us.

Purpose of Life & its Intentions Everyone should have

Purpose is to experience life

in all of its many forms

as fully and consciously as possible,

and to bring positive change into this world.

Intention to treat yourself better,

to learn to love youself in all your humanity, 

and to remain conscious of who and what you really are.

Intention to provide a loving, nurturing home

for your children, grandchildren, friends and family 

with an atmosphere that honors and respects all life in harmony with nature.

Intention to do what is best for all,

including yourself, but not at the exclusion of others.

You should be calmer, gentler, kinder and 

more patient, tolerant and peaceful with each moment.

Intention to experience everything that you can 

as fully as you can with acceptance and love.

You must see all of this big, beautiful blue planet 

and meet many more of our people and other inhabitants of our Universe.

You intend to care deeply for the life force in everyone,

and welcome change for the good of all.

Bring a Change in Society by Yourself...

   A thought comes up in the mind when I think about the current state of the society. The society today is filled with evils which are eating up the society. Evils like rapes, dowry, gender discrimination, caste discrimination are the ones which are living a monopoly in the society. In such a situation, the society needs its individuals; those individuals who understand what is correct and what is not.

   I believe the youth of the society are the ones who truly has the potential to bring about a change in the society. It cannot be ignored that whatever is the plight of society today, it is because of us individuals. We alone are responsible for its degrading state. Elders are not respected, they are sent to old age homes, people are exploited based on their caste, a wide gap has developed between the rich and the poor.

   All this is a result of economic inequality and unequal distribution of power within the society. Corruption is one of the reasons that has led to this state and environment in the society. Hence, it is time that every individual contributes his part to the welfare of the society.

   Change has to start from our own homes. We need to stop being biased to people based on their caste. Every person has equal right to live a healthy and a successful life. We need to respect the feelings and preferences of every person. Start right away. Stop falling down in the hands of corruption. Start today itself by respecting a being kind and humble to the servant or the maid in the house.

   After all, they are also human beings. They have equal right to live and have their opinion in life. They should be given equal opportunity to contribute in the society. The day all this becomes a reality, that day we will truly become a responsible individual in the society. Only when we implement it on our own selves, then we have the right to make an attempt to help others understand the same. We definitely cannot change anyone. We can let them know what is right and what is wrong.

Objective 1 : Avoid Guilty feeling

Avoid Guilty Feeling

Move on with your life :

   Don't dwell on negative, guilty feelings; they lead to inappropriate levels of shame and self-loathing. Recognize that nobody's perfect and we all make mistakes, and this is one you will not repeat. Engage in activities that are positive and affirming, and where you have opportunities to do good; allow yourself to see how the same mistake that made you feel guilty has now resulted in your being a better, more conscientious person.

True Lines...

Ek joker ne logo ko 1 joke sunaya to sub log bahot hase,

Usne wahi joke dobara sunaya to kam log hase.

Us ne wahi joke fir se sunaya to koi bhi nahi hasa.

To phir usne 1 bohat pyari baat boli:

   "Agar aap 1 khushi ko le kar baarbaar nahi khush ho sakte to phir.

    ek GHAM ko le kar baar baar rote kyu ho?

A Story of a Woodcutter...

   Once upon a time, a very strong woodcutter asked for a job in a timber merchant and he got it. The pay was really good and so was the work condition. For those reasons, the woodcutter was determined to do his best.

   His boss gave him an axe and showed him the area where he supposed to work.

   The first day, the woodcutter brought 18 trees.

   “Congratulations,” the boss said. “Go on that way!”

   Very motivated by the boss words, the woodcutter tried harder the next day, but he could only bring 15 trees. The third day he tried even harder, but he could only bring 10 trees. Day after day he was bringing less and less trees.

   “I must be losing my strength”, the woodcutter thought. He went to the boss and apologized, saying that he could not understand what was going on.

   “When was the last time you sharpened your axe?” the boss asked.

   “Sharpen? I had no time to sharpen my axe. I have been very busy trying to cut trees…”

   What's the Reflection of this story?

   Our lives are like that. We sometimes get so busy that we don’t take time to sharpen the “axe”. In today’s world, it seems that everyone is busier than ever, but less happy that ever.

    Why is that? Could it be that we have forgotten how to stay “sharp”? There’s nothing wrong with activity and hard work. But we should not get so busy that we neglect the truly important things in life, like our personal life, taking time to get close to our Creator, giving more time for our family, taking time to read etc.

    We all need time to relax, to think and meditate, to learn and grow. If we don’t take the time to sharpen the “axe”, we will become dull and lose our effectiveness.

Top 10 Steps To Help Stop Cybercrime - DELL

   You’ve probably heard the adage “information is power,” and that is certainly true when it comes to cybercrime. Access to your personal information is what gives hackers the power to tap into your accounts and steal your money or your identity. But the right information can also empower you to protect yourself from being caught up in the thriving industry that is cybercrime.

   With that in mind, here is our Top 10 list of steps you can take to avoid becoming a victim of cybercrime.

1) Education - Hackers aren’t the only ones who can gain power from information. By educating yourself about the types of scams that exist on the Internet and how to avert them, you are putting yourself one step ahead of the cybercriminals.

   Since phishing is prevalent, read up on the latest phishing scams and learn how to recognize a phishing attempt. Remember, phishing is when hackers attempt to lure you into revealing personal information by pretending to be a legitimate organization or person. These scams often play off major new stories, so keep informed on the latest news-related scams.

2) Use a firewall - Firewalls monitor traffic between your computer or network and the Internet and serve as a great first line of defense when it comes to keeping intruders out. Make sure to use the firewall that comes with your security software. And if you have a home wireless network, enable the firewall that comes with your router.

3) Click with caution - When you’re checking your email or chatting over instant messenger (IM), be careful not to click on any links in messages from people you don’t know. The link could take you to a fake website that asks for your private information, such as user names and passwords, or it could download malware onto your computer. Even if the message is from someone you know, be cautious.

   Some viruses replicate and spread through email, so look for information that indicates that the message is legitimate.

4) Practice safe surfing - When navigating the web, you need to take precautions to avoid phony websites that ask for your personal information and pages that contain malware. Use a search engine to help you navigate to the correct web address since it will correct misspellings. That way, you won’t wind up on a fake page at a commonly misspelled address. (Creating a phony site at an address similar to the real site is called “typosquatting,” and it is a fairly common scam.)

   You may also want to use a product like McAfee® SiteAdvisor® software to help you navigate. SiteAdvisor software is a free browser tool that tells you if a site is safe or not right in your search results, so you are warned before you click.

5) Practice safe shopping - In addition to practicing safe surfing, you also need to be careful where you shop online. Be cautious when shopping at a site that you’ve never visited before and do a little investigation before you enter your payment information. Look for a trustmark, such as McAfee SECURE™, to tell you if a site is safe.

   And when you’re on a payment page, look for the lock symbol in your browser, indicating that the site uses encryption, or scrambling, to keep your information safe. Click on the icon to make sure that the security certificate pertains to the site you are on.

   You also want to look at the address bar to see if the site starts with “https://” instead of “http://” because this is another way to see if the site uses encryption.

   When it comes time to pay, use a credit card instead of a debit card. If the site turns out to be fraudulent your credit card issuer may reimburse you for the charges, but with a debit card your money is gone.

   Finally, evaluate the site’s security and privacy policies in regards to your personal data.

About Me & Purpose of Blog

         I'm Yampati Sachin Reddy, shortly Sachin. I Started this blog to open-up. I don't know how many will see this blog. But every one in this world is my friend. I want each and everyone's support. My ambition is to become an Employer in every sector. It doesn't mean that I rule, but I Serve. May be some of you understand my objective of becoming an Employer. Those who didn't we shall discuss more about it in next paragraph.
         I want each and everyone work for themselves and help others. I want to eliminate the differences between man and woman, poor and rich, educated and uneducated, employed and unemployed.

        What we get if we eliminate them?
      Yes, we eliminate the following with the above eliminations:

• Robbery
• Rape
• Bribe
• Fight
• Unemployment

         And I'm wishing everyone'll support me. Support includes suggestions, ideas & feelings. I think there is no need of requesting you to support me. Because if one has ever thought of change like this they surely support me.

Thank you one & all...