No one is coming

         Short. But it has been a powerful and sobering reminder for anyone.

         Because yes, you can look for the next big thing that will fix you.

Focus on What Truly Matters

         Questions I hope will be as helpful for you as they are for me to refocus on what truly matters in your life during the rest of the life and as fall is starting to approach.

Stop Comparing Yourself to Other People

         One destructive habit is to constantly compare your life and yourself to other people and their lives. 

         You compare cars, houses, jobs, shoes, money, relationships, social popularity and so on. 

         And at the end of the day you create a lot of negative feelings within. And perhaps also outside of yourself.

         But how can you stop doing it? Or at least get control of it and use it in a better way? Well, here are some tips that may help you.

Get More Done with (a Lot) Less Stress

         The daily work we do - in school, at work or in a business - can easily become overwhelming, ineffective and suck the energy and joy out of what you are doing.

         So how can you work in a lighter, simpler way that helps you to get more of what truly matters done in less time and with less stress?

         Let me share some habits that we have discovered over the years that may help you to do just that.

How to Boost The Self-Esteem of The People You Love

DIY - Do It Yourself

         Well, raising one's self-esteem is mostly an inside job. It is about seeing and valuing yourself in a new and more positive and helpful way. So it is not something someone else can do for you (or you can do for someone else).

         But you do have a couple of suggestions for how you can start encouraging such a change in someone you care about.

What to Do Instead of Stumbling

         It wasn't a very healthy but an extremely common problem while handling mistakes or failures.

         This habit can be hard to stop using because it can indeed help you to improve. And if you don't know what more positive alternatives you can replace it with then you may get stuck.

So what can you replace that habit with?

Overcome Perfectionism

"People throw away what they could have by insisting on perfection, which they cannot have, and looking for it where they will never find it."

         One of the most common challenges that people face - and I myself have had quite a bit of trouble with - is perfectionism.

         It's an issue that can hold you back in life. Not only from achieving and finishing what you want.

         But sometimes from even getting started. While at the same time draining your self-esteem and getting you stuck in a negative spiral where it can become harder and harder to start moving forward.

         This to share things that may help you - with this destructive and distracting thought habit.

How to Chill Out and Live a Happier Life

         To be calm in negative situations and not overreact or worry about all kinds of things. 

         Or to not invent big, big problems in your mind - or create them in your world as you drag other people in through arguments - by making mountains out of molehills.

         But how do you do it?

         Let me share two things that work really well.

Keep Things Extremely Simple

You loved to think. Nothing wrong with that though.

But a lot, too much actually! You could have been the posterboy for overthinkers all over the world.

And it made you feel smart and like you was better than many other people in some way. So it was kind of addictive.

It trapped you in analysis paralysis when it came to social skills and relationships, to making decisions about what you wanted to do in life and to taking action and chances?

It held you back a lot in life? It made you doubt yourself and kept your self-confidence low?

One small and very simple thing that will help you to turn that around were four words.